Five tips to help parents connect with their teen and tween

by Dr. Bridget “Dr. B” Melson, MFT, PsyD.

I get it. Life is crazy with teens and tweens! I have three kids going in all different directions. I also have a successful private counseling practice, a husband that works and travels and we are all deeply involved in church life, school activities, political events, sports and on and on.

How are you supposed to connect, maintain a bond with and responsibly parent your kids when you are going in five different directions seven days a week? Is it possible to raise decent, moral upstanding citizens and remain sane? YES!

Here are some helpful survival tips I often implement, taken from my book, “Parent Survival Guide.” Do these things and your teen will thank you.

1. TRUST Your Parental Instinct. If you suspect something is awry and what your teen is telling you is not making sense, something is up. Seek them out and check-in with them. Immediately.
2. Be Specific and Be Consistent. Being specific eliminates frustration and being consistent removes the unknowns.
3. Be Proud. Being proud means being present. Kids don’t want to just tell you about their game or dance recital, they want you to experience it with them.
4. Talk to Your Teen. Not much to say here other than talk with your teen—no expectations, no criticism—just hang out and get to know them.
5. Picture This: This is a good reality check exercise when you are feeling frustrated. The next time your teen is driving you crazy, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine your teen never coming through your door again due to some unfortunate accident or event. Reality. Check.

All in all, count your blessings, and if you are having difficulty connecting with, understanding and parenting your teen, never be afraid to reach out and seek professional help. We are here to guide and support you. Call us anytime at Trinity Life Solutions. (940) 489-3050.

God Bless and Keep Fighting the Good Fight!

If you have any questions or teen and parenting counseling needs, visit me at www.trinitylifesolutions.com or call 940-489-3050.